Our story
We married in 1993, went into full-time ministry three years later, and have spent most of our adult lives raising a family in front of a congregation.
How it started
Draft placeholder: a few paragraphs in your own words about how you met, your wedding on March 20, 1993, and what the early years looked like.
Thirty years in ministry
October 2026 marked thirty years of full-time ministry for us. Today we serve as lead pastors of Hope Church in Broken Arrow, Oklahoma.
For roughly twenty of those years we've also coordinated marriage enrichment for our church organization. That means a good part of our life has been spent helping other couples do the same work we're doing at home, and we've learned at least as much from them as they've learned from us.
Marriage under the microscope
When you're in ministry, your marriage becomes part of your public life whether you want it to or not. People notice whether you sit together, how you speak to each other, and what your kids are doing on Sunday morning.
We've found that the answer isn't pretending to be perfect, and it isn't putting everything on display either. It's deciding ahead of time what we'll share and what stays at home, and agreeing on how we'll protect each other when the pressure comes.
Transparency doesn't mean everyone gets a key to the house.
Our family
We have four children, all grown now and building their own lives, marriages, and careers. We're also grandparents to three granddaughters, which has been the best part of this season.
Our kids didn't sign up for a public life, so we're careful about what we share about them. When they show up on this site, it's because they've chosen to.
About each of us
Joe Cook
Joe is a pastor, author, speaker, and teacher. Alongside ministry he has built a long career in business and technology, and much of his teaching now goes toward helping pastors of small churches carry a workload that's often too heavy for one person.
He leads The Pastor's Workbench, an online community for pastors, and wrote Anointed Algorithm for pastors learning to use AI well. Outside the church, he consults with businesses and organizations on AI, building knowledge bases, connecting systems, and creating practical business applications.
Danielle Cook
Danielle is a pastor, speaker, mother, grandmother, and longtime leader in women's ministry. For eleven years she has hosted My Favorite Things, an evening for women that mixes gifts and laughter with honest talk about health, marriage, motherhood, and the different stages of a woman's life.
She cares about helping women talk openly about the parts of life nobody prepared them for.